I love this photo. For me it epitomises the best moments between my two boys.
My oldest was thrilled to have a little brother. He couldn’t wait to play with him. He wanted to help us; bringing us nappies, toys, milk. His favourite thing to do was to help feed his brother. At first he would patiently give him a bottle. Then, once weaning started he would feed him, again so patiently and with such enthusiasm. I’m sure my younger son ate more when his brother fed him than when I did!
Watching my 7yo learn to be a big brother was beautiful. He is now proving to be a wonderful big brother to his little sister too.
I was, and still am, so proud of the care and love that he shows; how thrilled he is to be given responsibility; and the thoughtful way he brings them both things and shares with them, whether that’s a toy or a treat or a picture he has drawn.
And, of course, I have now had the pleasure of watching the 4yo learn to be a big brother too.
Watching the three of them interact has been very interesting. When they are all together the dynamic is such that the 7yo is very much in charge. The 4yo gets little say in what they do. The wee girl is happy to follow them both anywhere!
It’s made me think about the 4yo’s role as the middle child and I have realised that it is very important for him and the wee girl to have time alone, to allow him to be the big brother. To be in charge, to make the rules, decide the games – and to be the focus of the wee girls attention. He blossoms when allowed to fulfil this role, and the wee girl absolutely adores him. He has an amazing ability to make her laugh :)
Whether they are playing alone or together, one thing is for sure: the wee girl is lucky to have two wonderful big brothers, and I pity any future boyfriends :)