Are you present; right here, right now? It’s a loaded question isn’t it? I want to say yes, but the truth is that often I’m not.
I may be physically in the building, but my mind is not: I am not truly present.
Presence is about more than just being there.
I have a need to be busy, so I fill my mind and days with lists of things to do. I flit from one diversion to another. Whether it be blogging, the book I’m reading or what to cook for dinner.
I half listen to the kids, saying hmmm and yes at appropriate moments. Until I get caught out.
I’m always trying to finish something!
My children say just one second when I ask them to do anything.
And while I can try to console myself with the fact that they are mimicking my attempts to teach them patience, and that their demands cannot always be met immediately; too often I say this to them because I feel that whatever I am doing is more important.
This is unfair and (almost always) untrue.
While I do think that sometimes, just being there is enough. That a comforting presence; for a snuggle on the sofa, or a quick cuddle, or a hand to hold; is enough.
By not giving them my full attention when they ask it of me, and even when they don’t, I will be the one who loses. I will be the one left wondering. I will be the one left standing on the side lines.
Life is busy and chaotic and loud, and it can be hard to remain present through all the noise. But I must be careful of what I filter. What I choose to distance myself from. What I choose to be absent from.
Too often I am distracted. I am elsewhere.
I am missing.
And, I am missing out.
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