I keep coming back to the same thought. Towards simplicity. I want my life, our life, to be simpler, more balanced.
But, I have fallen into the trap of comparing myself with others. Of comparing our life with others.
And thinking, I wish.
I have allowed myself to be sucked behind the facade of social media.
I see tidy homes and calm children; parents holding it all together and not shouting.
I don’t see building projects and mess and stress over homework. I don’t see panic over trying to be in two, or three, places at once. I don’t see the diary clashes and the forgotten appointments.
I don’t see the terror of responsibility and being the adult. Of getting it all wrong.
But, if I actually take a step back from it all. Take a second to see the tiredness and worry and fear in other mums’ eyes. Listen to the tightness in voices; hear the frustration. Read between the lines; understand the reality of the words. Look past the confidence; see the concern.
I realise that we’re not so different after all; I realise just how lucky I am.
And, I have realised that sometimes comparison can be useful.
That looking to others and their journeys can help inform my own. That reading of others quests to simplify, declutter, reevaluate and change; to find joy; can help.
Not paralyze with the fear of inevitable failure, but inspire with positivity.
So, I find myself with a growing pile of motivational and self-help books on my bedside table, replacing my usual fiction fix.
Not a virtual pile on my Kindle, but a real pile! To be read, reread, referenced; flicked through and dipped into.
My natural tendency to go it alone needs to be reined in on this occasion; because this is not a journey to be undertaken alone.
I realise that ultimately my version of a simple life will be mine alone, and should not be compared to others, favourably or otherwise. That I must find a way to balance my reality with what is wanted, needed and wished for.
But, I am ready to take on board all the advice I can get. To compare my ideas with others, to contrast their successes and failures with my own. To find a path that works for me.
To move forward, towards simplicity.
You can find this weeks #ThePrompt linky here. I do hope this week’s prompt inspired you; I look forward to reading your posts.